The first meeting with the parents of the future husband for each girl is full of emotions. And this is natural. After all, I want to not only show, but also prove that it is she who deserves their son.
How to like the future mother-in-law? How to make contact with her? To establish a good relationship with the mother-in-law is necessary as soon as possible, because after the wedding you have to be in her house, where she will always be the main mistress.
Unfortunately, cases when the relationship with the mother-in-law does not add up are not rare. It is difficult for women to find a common language, since nobody wants to share a beloved man with someone else (regardless of whether he is a son or husband). But do not give up. After all, no one said it would be easy.
Building relationships with mother-in-law is hard work. But you can cope with this and ensure that the husband’s mother will treat you no worse than he will do with his own daughter. Of course, this is a huge plus. The main thing is that the care of the mother of the groom does not burden you.
According to scientists, there are frequent cases when a person in a married life tries to replay the life of his parents. Therefore, the daughter-in-law often turns out to be similar to her mother-in-law. Perhaps it is this fact that explains the good relationship between the mother-in-law and the chosen one of the son. After all, they have so much in common.
If you truly love your husband, then the relationship with the mother-in-law will develop as well as possible. Surely, your mother-in-law has the same qualities as a beloved man. Find these qualities in her, and this will greatly facilitate your task - to find a common language.
With a good relationship with the mother-in-law, some daughter-in-law call her "mother". However, many are embarrassed by this word, believing that the mother has only one bride and calling someone else is simply unacceptable. But you should not understand the word "mother" literally. But when a girl strives to find the features of her mother in her mother-in-law - this is a completely different conversation. As a rule, the mother of the wife and the mother of the husband are two completely different personalities. I doubt that the mother-in-law will be able to replace your mother, but always become a good friend.
If life with the mother-in-law fell under your same roof under one roof, do not get discouraged ahead of time. It's not so bad. Talk to the smallest detail about your life together, and all problems will disappear by themselves. Begin the conversation first, because it is in your interests to establish relations with the mother-in-law.
Remember the famous phrase "Love for a man lies through his stomach"? Without fail, take culinary lessons from the mother-in-law. After all, your husband loved her kitchen so much!
Feel free to ask her for advice. And she will be pleased, and it will be useful to you. But the right to choose the final decision should always remain with you.
Do not create a situation for your husband when he is forced to rush between two fires. Do not complain to him about disagreements between you and your mother-in-law. All your quarrels, both with the mother-in-law and with your husband, decide on your own. Do not take litter out of the hut.
If you have the opportunity to live separately from your husband’s parents, then do not miss your chance. So the relationship with the mother-in-law will be better, and you can feel like a full-fledged mistress of the house.