- The first phobia. Fear of losing freedom
- The second phobia. Not a good past experience
- The third phobia. Need to test our feelings
- Fourth phobia. Single friends and single living habits
- Fifth Phobia. He is afraid not to live up to your expectations.
After the wedding, the man begins to realize that you are one and only. You ask, why only after the wedding? Why does he not understand this after the first exciting kiss or after the first night spent with him? Why do men need so much time for a simple truth to come true for him, for him to understand that you are made for each other? Yes, maybe it's just a masculine feature, and we don’t understand this. Indeed, for a girl who met her only understanding comes pretty quickly. It is immediately clear to us that we are now connected and are one. And the man at this moment still doubts.
Yes, it’s hard for a man to change his mind. But we can say with confidence that sooner or later a day will come when a man begins to dream of a wedding with his beloved and dear to him woman. But while this day has not yet arrived, let's try to understand more deeply the causes of the most common male phobias that overcome a man before the wedding. And also we will trace how these phobias dissipate after marriage. After all, the beautiful and solemn march of Mendelssohn and the beautiful wife are able to dispel any men's fears!
The first phobia. Fear of losing freedom
Such a sweet word for any person is freedom. Men are afraid to lose her, even if they realize that they are beloved. It seems to them that if they came to this world free, then they should die the same: free from obligations, and participation in family affairs. It seems to many men that their beloved freedom, with the arrival of a woman, will scatter like smoke. But a woman is not just the first comer, but Beloved and Only. Agree, sacrifice some piece of freedom for her’s sake.
There are men who in any woman see only a threat to their free single life. So do they really not want family warmth and coziness, do not want an orderly sexual life and quiet evenings with your family? Perhaps the realization that it is worth changing something in life will still overtake them. But there’s no need to delay it. The farther, the more difficult it will be to let love into your heart and begin to live together.
What happens to this phobia after the wedding? It may seem funny, but after the wedding, the man loses all interest in his much-vaunted freedom. He realizes that he was wrong, the code boasted that he was a lone wolf. Now it’s much nicer to hug a sweet wife and confess her love. And freedom ... where does it go!
After marriage, many men change beyond recognition. Where does the proud hermit go? They begin to like the control of their wife, they are happy to obey the desires of their beloved woman.
The second phobia. Not a good past experience
It happens that a man tries to delay the declaration of love and the marriage proposal. This is due to the unsuccessful experience of a previous marriage. If he was already married, knows the pros and cons of family life, knows from personal experience with everyday scandals and disagreements with his wife’s relatives, then it’s quite logical that he wants to take a closer look at you. He has an understandable reason before the marriage proposal to understand that you are not like his ex.
It may take some time to live with such a man in a civil marriage, so that he felt the difference. Therefore, if a man doubts and tries to pull the rubber as long as possible, do not put pressure on him. Well, perhaps, it’s a bit more likely to remind you that you love him and dream of marrying the most handsome, smart and strong man in the world. That is for him. If he feels that you sincerely love him, then after some time he will happily come to you with flowers and a marriage proposal.
What does this phobia turn after the wedding? After the wedding, such a man begins to realize that with you confidence, stability, and warmth of the hearth have entered his life. As well as delicious food, cleanliness and order in the house, and the beloved woman is always next to him. After that, he wonders if it was worth it to delay this happiness.?
The third phobia. Need to test our feelings
Very often a man fears that he loves you not enough enough to create a family with you. If you always strive to openly demonstrate your feelings for him, you are very proud of your loved ones and want to wake up next to him every morning, then, despite his feelings for you, he may not be ready to live with you yet. Perhaps he just has not yet matured for marriage because of his youth. So think a few times, maybe you need to find a more mature man who will fully meet your needs? Indeed, in most cases, marriages with immature and unprepared men for living together are doomed to failure. Infantilism can ruin your happiness.
What can happen after the wedding? A man who has not matured for family life will begin to take away from his duties at home after the wedding, will prefer entertainment and relaxation to his pastime with you. Family worries are not for him.
Although there are times when a man is used to performing household chores in the family of his parents. But even in this case, events can develop in two scenarios. According to the first: he will start drinking and walking, blaming you for the fact that it was you who didn’t let him go for a walk and deceived yourself into a fraud. According to the second: he is aware of all the children's inconsistency of his behavior before the wedding and will happily begin to study family life. If your marriage develops according to the second scenario - that's great! Although they say that a man who has not been dogged (as well as a woman who has not been dogged) or, as they can still say, is not crazy, will sooner or later take his.
Fourth phobia. Single friends and single living habits
There are men who perceive the wedding as a betrayal of their own "I", and even more so, as a betrayal of their friends. If in the company in which your fiancé is used to spending all his time, all friends are still single, then these very friends may not always understand that your fiancé has met his love and wants to connect his life with it. If he decides to tell them everything, then he can be laughed at or, even worse, friends can just be offended. It is such complications of his relationship with friends that can cause a delay in the wedding.
It seems to many men that after the wedding they will become completely different. Their friendship, which they valued so much, will also change. They will not be able to spend as much time with their friends as they would like, they will have to cancel the partying in the morning and the habit of flirting with beautiful girls in the bar, and you will have to forget other “male” games. Friends also do not always contribute to clarifying your relationship. Some may approve of your marriage, but there may be those who begin to dissuade from the wedding and try to alienate your loved one from you.
What will happen to this phobia after the wedding? The first few years, be prepared that your husband will devote quite a lot of time to his friends. It will be difficult to break the habit of old habits. And you are unlikely to find a common language with your husband’s friends. You just have to wait and hope that friends soon settled down and played their weddings. Then you will have mates in misfortune, and pair-to-pair communication will be preferable.
Fifth Phobia. He is afraid not to live up to your expectations.
Quite often, a man can be frightened by the fact that he will prove to be insolvent and incapable of supporting his family. Perhaps there will even be such a situation that you will receive a much higher salary than your beloved. And this will really contribute to the development of a similar phobia..
From childhood you could have been told to your fiance that a man is the hope and support of the whole family. Therefore, until he is convinced of this, there will be no wedding. Although there are some men who are happy to shift all the worries to your fragile shoulders. This option is more suitable for wealthy ladies. And maybe you should find someone better? In the world there are a large number of men for whom marriage is an incentive for new achievements in business and career. They are looking for new financial sources, trying to improve their skills, changing jobs.
What happens after the wedding? Every normal man, realizing that you are now two, will make every effort to ensure you a comfortable life. Young people are becoming more serious and responsible. And if the family and the wife do not miss, what is possible with the beginning of your family life, you will establish your joint business.
We can say with confidence that the appearance in the life of a man of a beloved woman obliges him to many things: this is growing up, and the appearance of a sense of responsibility and concern for another person. In many ways, now the goal of a man will be the justification of the hopes of a person dear to him.
What conclusions can be drawn? In my article, I hope that once again I convinced you that a woman needs a man, like air. She is able to inspire him to great things, inspire and discover a wonderful world of love and trust. And what is required of a man? He just has to forget about all his phobias and boldly step towards a new wonderful life - living in a family union with a beautiful woman. After all, only next to her is a man able to appreciate and understand what kind of smart, reliable, kind and sensitive hero he is.
And I also hope that such a day will come when a man will gladly offer to marry him and will not come up with any excuses for marriage. And I sincerely believe that such a day will come.