- Celebration preparation
- The scenario of the Tatar wedding
- Wife moving to husband's house
- Wedding feast and national treats
- Video: traditions and customs at the Tatar wedding
The people of Tatarstan, settled throughout Russia, are a nation with a rich culture and historical heritage. Linguistic differences, national rites that have been created over many centuries, leave a definite imprint on the lifestyle of each Tatar. The uniqueness of the nation is clearly manifested in the wedding traditions, reviving today. The Tatar wedding is the most important event in the life of the future Muslim family. The rich national customs of the ancient people make such a holiday truly original and interesting..
Preparations for the Tatar celebration begin long before the official date of the wedding. Previously, before the marriage, with the blessing of the mullah, there is a matchmaking and conspiracy between the parents of future newlyweds. Young people do not participate in negotiations. The matchmaking process is divided into three stages:
- bride bride,
- the story of the groom,
- negotiations between the parties.
Representatives of the newlywed are the matchmaker (yauchi), plus one senior relative. If the first two stages of the matchmaking were successful, then at the last stage the parents of the groom join them. During the final wedding negotiations, the parties discuss the material and other aspects of the life of the new Tatar family: the future residence of the newlyweds, the obligations of the parties to purchase furnishings for young housing, the income of the groom, the volume and composition of the kalym for the bride and other issues.
Traditionally, the ransom must be paid in full before or on the day of the wedding. The kalym may include gold jewelry, sets of winter and summer clothes, bedding, dishes, a certain amount of money. The bride’s wedding dowry is not discussed during the conspiracy. If the parties come to an agreement, then the newlyweds are informed about the positive outcome of the negotiations, an engagement date is set. Then begins the discussion of the Tatar wedding celebration, which includes:
- Nikah Wedding Rite is a Muslim marriage that takes place in a mosque or in a bride’s house. It consists of prayers, recitation of the Qur'an, spiritual parting words and instructions. Marital sacred vows are given either by the newlyweds themselves, or by their representatives.
- Registration of marriage in the registry office, which legally fastens the family union. The application is submitted on the day of the engagement, after which the bride is considered a married girl (yar? Shk? N kyz).
- Tatar wedding (Tui) - a holiday that lasts many days, first in the bride's house, then in the groom's house. In the modern version, a wedding celebration can be spent several days in the banquet hall of the restaurant.
If the bride and groom are well acquainted, parents on both sides and participants agree to the wedding, then conspiracy and engagement are carried out within one day. A festive table is set in the bride's house. Parents of future spouses discuss the conditions for concluding a marriage, exchange gifts. After the completion of the transaction and the engagement, they begin to prepare for the Tatar wedding celebration.
The preparation of the Tatar festive event on average takes from 3 to 5 weeks. The bridegroom collects and in parts pays for the bridegroom, buys gifts for the bride, her parents and close relatives for the wedding. The newlywed completes the preparation of the dowry, which she began to cook in her teens. Parents, close relatives on both sides are engaged in organizing a wedding celebration..
Decoration of the venue
Tatar wedding is celebrated for many days. The decoration of the venue of the celebration depends on the taste, desire, religious preferences of the groom, bride and their parents. Standard wedding decorations are popular, for example, balloons, garlands and intricate flower arrangements, as well as national decor: embroidered tablecloths, dishes with Tatar patterns, small pillows with ornaments. Particularly religious couples decorate wedding rooms with elements with spiritual instructions, parting words in family life from the Koran.
The musical accompaniment of the Tatar wedding celebration is selected in accordance with the format of the event, tastes, preferences of the newlyweds and relatives. Popular musical compositions of contemporary performers in the Tatar and Russian languages. Widely used are both melodic and incendiary folk songs, and eternal musical wedding symbols, for example, the Mendelssohn March.
Traditional Tatar outfits of the newlyweds
Traditional Tatar outfits of the newlyweds differ from the usual European outfits. The bride is a symbol of modesty and virtue of the wedding. The white outfit of the bride and groom should cover the whole body as much as possible, including the arms, neck and décolleté, see photo below. A long wedding dress (as an option - a tunic with trousers) is necessarily complemented by a headdress, for example, a scarf that completely covers the hair. It is permissible for the bride to leave her hands and face open, all other parts of the body should be hidden from the view of outsiders by spacious clothes made of dense fabric.
There are fewer requirements for the Tatar groom’s dress than for the bride’s dress. The bride and groom at the wedding can be in a classic suit of black, dark blue or any other color, complemented by a white shirt and tie. Tips for choosing a groom's outfit for a Tatar celebration practically do not differ from recommendations for a European wedding. The only feature is a must-have hat for the bride and groom: skullcap.
The scenario of the Tatar wedding
Successful holding of the Tatar celebration depends on a well-thought-out scenario, which must necessarily include wedding customs and traditions. To make the holiday fun, interesting, please guests, agree in advance with the host on all the subtleties and nuances that you want to take into account at the celebration. For your convenience, we offer a ready-made script with replicas of the main characters, taking into account the main wedding rituals.
Matchmakers arrive at the bride's house. Parents meet guests, escorted to the house to start negotiations. According to the ancient Tatar wedding tradition, all conversations in the first stages are allegorical, so that evil spirits do not ruin the conspiracy. Present: matchmaker, uncle of the groom, father and mother of the bride.
Father of the bride:
- Hello, dear guests! What have you come for??
- Hello! Thank you for your hospitality! We have a good deed to you! We heard that you own a treasure - an uncut gem of high purity, amazing unearthly beauty. It's true?
Father of the bride:
- People say different things. What do you care about that?
“We would like to take a look at the treasure.” If the rumors are true and we will like it, then we want to offer your jewelry a decent frame. It will not only multiply the value of the treasure many times, but will also keep it from any dangers and troubles for a long time.
Father of the bride:
- Many people come to us with similar offers. Why do you think your frame will be the best?
Swat begins to praise the groom in detail, his uncle complements his story about the merits of the future spouse: loving, caring, earns well, honors and respects elders, has no bad habits, religious, etc. After the story, the bride and groom are shown to the matchmakers, then they go on to discuss the wedding kalym. The size of the initial Tatar ransom, the groom will in advance find out from the parents of the newlywed.
- People are telling the truth! Your treasure really has a unique beauty, worthy of only the best. We want to offer a good price that will reimburse your loss..
Father of the bride:
“But we are not selling anything!” Our treasure is very dear to us. We value it, cherish it, cherish it. How much are you willing to offer if we decide to sell?
There is an active, lengthy wedding bargaining for the bride. Swat, the uncle of the groom is trying to bring down the price, the parents of the newlywed increase the cost of the Tatar kalym. When the preliminary conspiracy is completed, the parties agree on the next meeting and say goodbye. At the last stage of Tatar matchmaking, parents from both sides are present who discuss in more detail material issues related to living together, the life of a young family, including organizational aspects of the wedding.
According to the Tatar tradition, on the wedding day, the bride’s parents take the future spouse out of his house and take him to a special room for his future wife, which is called the groom’s house (Kiyau Eye). Previously, for this purpose, a temporary building was specially built near the house of the newlywed parents, now they are renting a hotel room or a separate apartment. In addition to the bride buying the bridegroom, which takes place at this stage of the Tatar wedding ceremony, this room is intended for the wedding night of the newlyweds.
The wedding procession arrives at Kiyau hey. Relatives, friends of the bride do not let the groom go until he completely pays off the dowry or pays an extra amount of money. It is either a wedding host or a relative of the bride and groom. The Tatar wedding begins with a meeting of the groom and his relatives with the words of the host:
- Hello, dear guests! Introduce youreself. What have you come for??
The groom calls his name, replies that he came to pick up the bride.
The wedding leader takes out a sheet of paper symbolizing the marriage contract, begins to verify the data:
- Yes that's right. I have written: Ruslan (name of the groom) is obliged to pay a predetermined fee of 50,000 rubles. for Dinara (name of the bride). You cooked kalym?
The groom, along with the witness, begins to pay the wedding kalym. The host checks the list, accompanying the action with comic remarks and praises of the newlywed's gifts. The main amount of money, large gifts of the Tatar kalym can be transferred to the bride's parents before the wedding, and during the ceremony, payment is organized in the form of small and symbolic gifts, taking into account ancient traditions. For example, the groom can bring with him decorative barrels filled with honey and oil, give jewelry, etc..
After the payment of the Tatar kalym is completed, the presenter continues to hold comic wedding contests. Interesting ideas are given in the article. «Competitions for the redemption of the bride». Having successfully passed all the difficulties, tests on the way to the bride and groom, the groom takes his narrowed from Kiyau Eye. Then the newlyweds, together with relatives and guests of the wedding, go to the Nikah ceremony.
The Tatar wedding ceremony is held either in the mosque or in the bride's house. The ceremony is attended by the mullah, the newlyweds, close relatives of the newlyweds. The ceremony lasts about an hour, held in silence in private. Mullah takes the place at the head of the table, the newlyweds are located on the male side or opposite it. The wedding ritual begins with a prayer during which the bride and groom stand. Then, in accordance with the requirements of Islam, the bride and groom make a vow of marriage..
The wedding ceremony ends with the proclamation of the newlyweds as a legitimate husband and wife in the face of Allah, spiritual parting words, prayers from the Koran. At the end of the sacred ritual, relatives give gifts to the mullah, congratulate the newlyweds on a legitimate Muslim marriage. After the Tatar rite Nikah, the wedding procession is sent to register the marriage to the registry office.
After the official marriage ceremony is over, a long celebration of the Tatar wedding celebration begins. The event is divided into several stages:
- festive feast in the house of the bride's parents;
- moving wife to husband;
- wedding feast in the groom's parental home.
According to the Tatar tradition, the parents of the newlywed necessarily set the festive table in their house to meet the newlyweds after the registry office. The bride and groom are seated at the head of the wedding table, the young wife sits on the right side of the spouse. On the part of the newlywed are the parents of the husband, and next to the son-in-law are the young parents. On the left side of the table are the relatives of the bride, on the right are the relatives of the groom. The Tatar wedding festivities begin with traditional treats, national dances, competitions, entertainments.
A festive feast in the house of the bride's parents ends with the wedding night of the newlyweds in Kiyau Eye. The next day, according to the Tatar wedding tradition, they heat the young with a bath, treat them with pancakes and pancakes. Newlyweds accept congratulations from numerous relatives on the part of the bride and groom, neighbors, friends, acquaintances. After several days of celebration, the rite of moving the young wife to her husband’s house is held. Then the wedding feast lasts a few more days.
Wife moving to husband's house
The Tatar wedding includes a special ritual - moving a wife to her husband’s house. The rite has a significant impact on the future relationship between the parents of the bride and groom. Even at modern weddings, it is customary to observe traditional customs during a meeting of future relatives. The ritual helps the bride to show her best qualities as a wife and mistress. For the groom’s parents, this is a good opportunity to demonstrate kindness to the daughter-in-law, personally express wishes for a successful family life for the newlyweds.
On the day the wife moves to her husband’s house, the groom takes the bride out of the parental home. According to the Tatar wedding tradition, the young are escorted by the relatives of the newlywed, and the parents of the future husband meet. In his house, the ceremony begins with the arrival of the procession. At the feet of the bride, the male part of the guests puts a hide or a pillow as a sign of special honor to the guest, a warm greeting. The groom’s mother and elder sister treat the daughter-in-law with bread and honey so that the relationship between them is kind. Relatives offer the newlywed to dip his hands in flour, so that there is prosperity in the new family, give a diverse living creature.
Entering the house, the young wife performs the Tatar wedding ceremony of lighting the dwelling (? Kiender?): Hangs new towels, wall-mounted cloth decorations, beautiful curtains, rugs. The ritual helps the daughter-in-law settle down in the husband’s house and demonstrate her dowry to the spouse’s relatives. Wedding ritual - escorting a newlywed by water (soules to? Rs? T?) - an opportunity for the daughter-in-law to show her housekeeping, accuracy: the less she spills water, the greater respect for her. The wife’s move to her husband ends with an exchange of gifts and a wedding feast in the new house.
Wedding feast and national treats
The Tatar wedding involves a wide feast with a large number of various national treats. According to tradition, cold and hot appetizers are served at the beginning of the celebration, followed by shurpa - a thick soup of lamb and home-made noodles, and other traditional wedding dishes. During the feast, compotes, fruit juices, sparkling and still water are served. No alcohol at Nikah celebration.
Especially for the Tatar celebration, two large geese are being prepared, which symbolize a new married couple. By tradition, carving this wedding dish is entrusted only to an older man, who is appointed by the parents of the newlywed. The main task of the ritual is not to damage the bones of the bird, cutting the carcass into pieces. The removal of geese is accompanied by the presentation of numerous gifts, money to young spouses.
Particular importance is attached to the ritual presentation, cutting of several more Tatar wedding dishes:
- gulbadiya - a closed wedding cake with multi-layer filling (meat, rice, cottage cheese, raisins), which is made to order just before the celebration;
- chak-chak - a traditional Tatar sweet, consisting of fried pastry with honey, prepared by the bride.
Wedding gulbadiya can be cut by both men and women. Responsible appoint parents of the groom. Immediately before the ritual, the cake is covered with a large scarf, on which guests must put money, redeeming refreshments. Gulbadia is carefully cut, in one motion, into four parts, so as not to damage the middle of the wedding cake, preserving its layering. Parents of the groom take one fourth of the cake according to custom, so that they can then distribute it to relatives who were unable to attend the wedding, the remaining parts are distributed among the guests.
Not a single Tatar wedding is complete without chak-chak - treats of the bride (kyz k? M? H). This dish is served at the end of the event along with other sweets and tea. The person who will cut the wedding chuck-chuck is appointed by the bride's parents. By tradition, this role is assigned to the wife of an older brother or to a newlywed aunt (kyz jingi). Before cutting, there is a bargain between relatives, wedding guests. As in the case of gulbadiya, the chak-chak is cut into four parts: one is taken away by the groom's parents, the rest is distributed among those present.
Video: traditions and customs at the Tatar wedding
The Tatar wedding celebration, held in accordance with all traditions and customs, is a great celebration with which the long, happy life of a young married couple begins. The sacred vows that the newlyweds give to the mullah and close relatives give the religious event a special solemnity and hold the family together for many years. Warm words, sincere wishes of relatives, joy, happiness for the newlyweds will long remain in the memory of the newlyweds and guests of the wedding.
Even if you decide to organize a modest event, simplifying the ceremony or abandoning several Tatar wedding ceremonies, remember that the main purpose of the pious Nikah is to strengthen love for each other. When creating a union, do not forget about mutual respect, trust between spouses, which are a strong foundation for any couple. A beautiful, touching wedding ceremony of the Tatar wedding, see the video: