The old custom - kidnapping darling onCaucasus, is very popular. Modern civilized man is difficult to understand and accept this fact. The civil authorities, religious leaders, elders, on the one hand, advocate the abandonment of the ancient heritage mountaineers, on the other hand, theft vending bride in the Caucasus once again gaining popularity among young people. What is it - to marry a man who often do not even see? The end in such stories? Let's try to understand the intricacies of caucasian wedding.
In some cases there is the theft of the bride?
The history of the origin of the tradition is as old as the world. According to the chronicles, historical treatises of the Slavic peoples, the Romans, the peoples of the East in a way long to choose their mate. Confirmation is the biblical book of Judges tells the story about the kind of renewal of Benjamin, by kidnapping the girls of Israel. But, let's leave things of bygone days.
With the development of society, social progress,cultural life of the women were given equal rights with men. But a number of customs and traditions remained the same. How good or bad they are - hard to judge. Become a wife unfamiliar person on a whim? Perhaps a great love? Many believe such a "practice" criminal offense, and the custom - barbaric. Ironically, the people of the Caucasus, both men and women, supports the adoption of the tradition. In some cases, boys have resorted to stealing the bride in the Caucasus?
- As a way to solve the financial problems: the kidnapping of the Caucasus allows to solve the problem with the payment of dowry for the daughter of parents.
- Social status of the groom is much lower than that of the chosen one. Realizing that the girl's family did not give consent to the marriage, organized the kidnapping of the bride.
- A very popular option: attracted future bride. Chosen often unaware of plans for the future spouse. This way to the favor of the girls do not always end sadly in many families of the Caucasus there is love and harmony.
- The most enjoyable event for both parties - formutual agreement. When a girl and a guy in love with each other, but, under certain circumstances, can not get married. The reasons may be different:
- Young man and woman nourish sympathy for each other, and the family opposed the marriage. Stealing the chosen one in the Caucasus in this case, a tribute to tradition.
- When the girl's family insists on a weddingunloved man, while her heart was given to another. A true horseman will not allow his beloved suffer hated marriage and snatch his beloved, and the parents will have to agree with the choice of his daughter.
Accepted customs of the peoples of the Caucasus is difficultbe considered separately from the existing historical traditions. Many women believe that the only true abduction Caucasians emphasize virtue of feelings and serious intentions. Young men, in turn, come to the conclusion that it is better to meet the girl of his dreams, to show them favor, than to live with a man, secretly hating spouse.
Description Bride kidnapping process
How is the process of kidnapping the chosen one? Help of stealing girls in the Caucasus generally has a groom's family, parents, friends. Ancient legends say that a true horseman kidnaps future wife on a horse, throws her across the saddle and taken to an unknown destination. Currently, the role of the horse takes the iron horse - car. Choosing the right moment, when the girl is left alone, it drives up the car, opened the door and one or several young men abducted bride hiding in the car from the scene.
Then the girl hiding at home from their parents of the groom,forcing to spend the night there. After all, in the tradition of the Eastern nations, if an unmarried woman did not come home to sleep, it is considered dishonored. Further personal destiny it is very difficult - no one wants to choose the "evil" the bride in marriage. So we have abducted girls to consent to get married so as not to disgrace their family. One way to save the honor of avoiding marriage for a girl is the following custom: to escape from custody before dawn.
After spending the night under the same roof with the kidnapper,fiancee makes a choice: agree to marry, or refuses to, which can lead to the incitement of enmity between the families. Have sexual intercourse is not the decisive night. Giving consent to the wedding, the bride and groom go to her parents to ask for blessings. The latter, according to tradition, denied the young in it. After the birth of first child, the parents change their mind and take in-law into the family.
The official position of religious leaders,Elders of the Caucasus is that of bride stealing is not a method for creating a family. Negative state of mind of the stolen girls, often very young, may lead to irreparable consequences, even to suicide. The legislation also is the guardian of the interests of women. At the request of parents on the thief opened a criminal case. If in the future the family kidnapped recalls the statement of the theft, solving all amicably, and she consents to marriage, claims of the law are removed.
Possible endings of stories
Many young men, daring to kidnappingbride, unaware of the possible consequences. Well, when the final of such a method of starting a family becomes a happy marriage. Much more pitiable if a young girl is forced to submit to the will of the kidnapper, marrying him. Options later in life is not much, either, "can endure - slyubitsya" or poor all his life will quietly hate spouse. There are times worse when a hot guy from the Caucasus, "played enough", it cools to the beloved. What causes habits bride kidnapping?
Feeling affection for the young man,Caucasian beauty for various reasons, may not be able to marry him: family objections, unmarried older sister, groom mismatch position and groom. Then, the bride abduction often ends with a happy ending: the young married as if against the will of the parents of the bride, but after the baby is born, ask blessing once again, receive forgiveness. The case of the theft is in the past, a young family, according to the custom, she recognized the girl's parents.
Shame bride and the feud between the clans
theft Tradition suggests holding brides althoughone night in the house of the thief or relatives. All this time, darling persuaded to marry a thief, demonstrating its special qualities: courage, wealth and position in society. There are cases when several days passed persuasion, but she refuses. Then parents take her home, not paying attention to prejudices. Sometimes rebellious bride groom himself to go home, preferring to find someone less obstinate.
Rape of the daughters - a shame and disrespect for the familyBride. The result is a family feud between the clans, reaching to the bloody clashes and revenge. The hardest hit are experiencing what is happening direct participants of events, solving a difficult dilemma: to marry a man unloved or shame on the rest of his life. Young girls do not want to become the cause of tribal hatred and enmity. That's forced to marry. Remarkably, if her husband would be a good man that will eventually win the love and affection of his wife.
Authorities, religious leaders try Caucasusinfluence the situation: according to the laws of the state, according to the Sharia law of bride abduction, psychological violence, especially physical - are not allowed. The Criminal Code contains an article for kidnapping. Native women were treated with a statement to the police and the thief and his accomplices, in the presence of evidence, risk arrest and imprisonment of 5 to 15 years.
Cases where the theft is justified
To justify the kidnapping of the young beauty in the Caucasus is possible in some cases:
- When stealing a bride with her consent. Failure to groom / bride's parents, the differences between social status - is not a reason to separate the lovers. Bride kidnapping in this case - necessary measure.
- When a family has a unmarried older sisters,junior waiting for their turn to get married. Then he played "play" the abduction of the younger, to observe ancient customs and traditions. Often this is not easy with the consent of the bride's parents, and with their direct participation.
Video: the theft of the bride in national costume
How to get married in the best traditions of the East? Respect for ancient customs of today's youth often Caucasus - a tribute to the ancestors. In big cities, big cities, young people perceive the kidnapping of his girlfriend as a theatrical performance. Flags family, or clan hood of the car symbolize the purity of intention and proof of the theft is becoming a serious sense of Caucasians. Chosen happy, because for the sake of her young man decided to kidnapping. How does the bride theft by mutual agreement in the Caucasus? Watch our video.