How to determine the parents, if the guy is suited tothe role of a future husband for their beloved daughter? That's right, you just need to visit the guy home to see how he is able to keep house, provide for their families. It went to an old Russian tradition - the bride. Only after seeing firsthand the ability and skills of the young person to cope with household chores, parents in ancient Russia decide to take it in-law or not. And for the groom rite Smotrin - a very important event, because it is not easy to make a good impression on the parents of beloved and earn the consent to the wedding.
the groom the bride in Russia in the old days and today
Smotrin tradition originated long ago inancient villages. A few days after the matchmaking home to the groom's relatives came to the bride with the aim to see the house, household yard. Frequent ritual was familiar to all the villagers, it was not anything special to attract attention. The main participant Smotrin the bride was her father, and if she was an orphan, his father played the role of the elder brother, godfather or uncle of the girl. Not forbidden to take part in the bride and mother of the bride.
The bride began with the fact that all participantsRite pray three times going around the table. Earnestly praying, all sat down to the table and proceeded to the tea party, during which visitors learned interesting details about the future of their zyate. The bride appropriate any questions, even the most intimate, the guy obliged to answer them, not truthfully.
Future family considered home inside andoutside, outbuildings - a barn, stables, storeroom. They inquired about the guy, he keeps a farm, how to care for livestock than feeding, where the feed takes. They are also interested in how the guy realizes livestock products, which has an income, whether this money will be enough to feed the family.
In order to assess in what conditions willlive their daughter, the parents searched the kitchen, utensils, dishes. Especially in ancient Rus valued copper utensils, it was considered a sign of prosperity of the family. After a thorough examination of the entire household bride's parents make the final decision about the wedding. If they liked in the house of the groom, the bride was considered udavshimisya, and on this occasion began intoxicating feast.
Parents want to send their daughter to a good home, ingood hands, so she did not feel the need, the hunger. It happened so that after the examination management bride groom party remained dissatisfied. Then the guests left without sitting down at the table, showing that do not want to become related with the family. There have been many cases when after similar embarrassment wedding canceled, in spite of the deep feelings of the young.
Rite Smotrin long time existed as aindependent, following the previous matchmaking and Handshake. But over time, all three joined in a ceremony and a clear distinction was not between them. The so-called matchmaking might take several weeks, if the parties do not come to an agreement on the dowry, wedding and wedding organization.
Today, the bride wearing a formal nature,the rite is performed not in order to determine the economic ability to groom and to give or withhold consent to the marriage, but simply to learn more about the future zyate. The bride's parents come to the groom's house, talk with your family, get acquainted with the life of others. There is an opportunity to recognize the nature of Man, to see how he was growing up, that was interesting to the child, what events were the main determinants in life. By the bride's family is trying to embellish and update your home.
What is presented to the bride
In the old days the bride's relatives brought from hergifts to the groom's house. It was decided to give relatives and friends of the young man embroidered towels or tablecloths, cloth fabric. If the bride was a craftswoman, she will sew shirts for men of the family of her lover. The current delegation came to the groom's house, give the young man a tie or shirt. Alternatively, you can give a guy a purse, as the main money earner in the future family.
What does the groom during his Smotrin
Faced with the guests, the groom shows them the house from the outsideand inside. Guy explains that the house is made with their own hands, so that future family appreciated his talents. Do not over-praise myself, but excessive modesty does not play into the hands. If a family lives in a private house and keeps the economy, young people spend a tour of the economic court, showing his knowledge in the field of animal husbandry. And the groom, who lives in the apartment, there is only talk about his past achievements, plans for the future, a vision of the upcoming show of family life.
Well thought out and humorous script SmotrinIt helps the two families establish warm and friendly relations dating from the beginning. Do not make the bride as a surprise to parents. Assign them to a pre-specified day and time. To lift the mood of the audience, immediately after the meeting guests bride without words, solely on sign language and using facial expressions, talks about his home. And the parents of the bride write everything on paper. After the end of the story written by the parents read to all get lots of positive emotions.
The time has come to invite guests to the table, where aa glass of good wine followed by a verbal story about the groom himself and his family. After learning all the interesting details of the personal life of a young person, guests eager to experience it as a future owner. The guy will be tested in a competition (with a blindfold to roll up the bank, collect stool, etc.). For each passed stage unsuccessfully groom punish "the box" pile. At the same time, and on addiction to alcohol check.
Favor to the young, the guests sit down at the table again. It's time to find out how he was going to make money to support his family. Groom talks about his work, about the prospects of increase. Parents find out whether their daughter is also making a living, or a young man give her the role of a housewife and a nurse for children. If the outcome of the meeting both sides are satisfied, the bride are considered to be successful and start preparing for the wedding. It will be appropriate to remove the bride in the photo and video, to leave a beautiful memory of this wonderful pre-wedding ritual.